Parenting While Healing: The Raw Truth About Reparenting

Hello MindFull Readers,

I used to swing between two extremes when reparenting myself while parenting my kids. It felt at times like I was living two separate realities.

Some days, I was like:

“Yea baby! I’m strong, I’m crushing it! I’m running this show and look at me, breaking all the cycles of trauma from my past generations!”

But on other days, it was more like:

“Oh God, I’m so overwhelmed. I’m exhausted. I can’t do this! What if I’m ruining my kids? I am failing them.”

And this, my friends, is the true internal struggle for anyone trying to nurture something they never received in their own childhood. Whether it’s confidence, unconditional love, or all of the above—when you’re a cycle breaker, you’re trying to build something new. You’re filling a void with the beautiful things you should have received when you were a child.

So, how do we stay strong while breaking those cycles? How do we hold it together when it feels like we’re holding everything on our own?

Here are five things I do to cheer myself on when the going gets tough:

1. Pause and Breathe

   Sometimes I just sit down, close my eyes, and take a deep breath. Doing nothing is okay.

2. Acknowledge Growth

   I remind myself that I’m still learning and growing with my children. We’re all on this journey together.

3. Speak Kindly to Myself

   I say things like, “I need to forgive myself and just try again tomorrow.”

4. Talk It Out

   I vent my thoughts to my husband and ask for his perspective. It helps to have someone who can give you a reality check or simply listen.

5. Affirmations, Affirmations, Affirmations

   I remind myself daily: “I’m making a difference, and I will continue to do so.”

Because let’s be real, reparenting—while also raising your own children—when you never had a great example to follow, is really hard. Probably one of the hardest things ever and it’s one of the most challenging things you’ll ever do. But it’s also one of the most rewarding journeys you’ll ever take.

And when you finally bloom, trust me, you’ll want to shout from the rooftops:

“I did it! I’m a cycle breaker!”

Feeling stuck or need some support in your cycle-breaking journey?

Let’s chat! I’ve helped many parents (and non-parents) like you find balance and start healing the wounds of the past while nurturing their children in a healthier way. Reply to this email or schedule a free discovery call with me down below! Let’s walk this path together. You don’t have to do it alone.

With warmth and mindfulness,

Michelle Lim | Reparenting Life Coach - I help you break the generational trauma cycle and support inner child healing.

P.S. If you'd like to set up a free, 30-minute, no obligation, Healing & Growth Call with me to explore whether I am the right Reparenting Life Coach for you please book a slot at this link https://calendly.com/michelle-lim-tmp/healing-and-growth-call

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