Comparison doesn’t motivate our kids instead it wounds them.

To my fellow travellers breaking cycles,

Comparison sneaks in so quietly.

I heard these words often as a child. Maybe they were meant to motivate me, but what I actually heard was: “Who I am isn’t enough for you.”

That message settled deep inside, shaping the way I saw myself.

But here’s the truth: comparison doesn’t inspire growth, it chips away at self-worth. And I don’t want to pass that on to my children.

So here’s a gentle reframe I practise: swap comparison for curiosity.

🩵 “What do you think will help you here?”

🩵 “How do you feel about the way you handled that?”

Curiosity opens the door to growth, while comparison quietly closes it.

For me, the choice is clear. I’ll be choosing curiosity for my children, every single time.

With warmth and mindfulness,

Michelle Lim | Reparenting Coach

I help you break free from generational trauma and nurture a new cycle of emotional safety by reparenting your inner child.

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