Breaking the Silence: My Journey and the Importance of Healing through Reparenting

Hello MindFull Readers,

I’m asking because I’ve been there. As a child, I had some dark thoughts too, and they didn’t just come out of nowhere. Here’s what influenced me:

• I was heavily bullied at school—physically, mentally, and verbally.

• My parents were always absorbed in their own battles, leaving little room for me.

• I witnessed my mother attempting suicide multiple times.

• I became the “mini mom” at a young age, taking on responsibilities no child should.

• Physical and verbal abuse at home was a constant.

• Teachers put me down simply because I was Asian.

• I was stuck in the middle of my parents’ arguments, constantly playing referee.

• I didn’t have a trusted adult to turn to who could truly understand my situation.

• And there was more…

Eventually, I broke.

At 11, I started physically harming myself in small ways.

At 12, I cycled on the road in a daze, indifferent to oncoming traffic.

At 13, I would break down and cry for hours, hitting myself in despair.

At 14, I escalated the self-harm on my body.

At 15, I overdosed on a box of painkillers, hoping it would end everything.

At 16, I began experiencing frequent heart palpitations from constant stress.

By 17, my mind was consumed by thoughts of suicide.

All of the above was accumulatively one big cry for help.

But what and who did I need when I couldn’t rely on my parents?

• I desperately needed a safe space.

• I needed a trusted adult to confide in, someone who could help me navigate the chaos.

• I needed someone to show me how to communicate what I was feeling.

• I just needed a warm hug and someone to tell me I was worthy of love.

This is why I’m still healing today by reparenting myself. I didn’t have the support network I needed growing up, and I refuse to let that cycle continue with my children. The generational trauma stops with me.

If you’re reading this and any of this resonates with you, please reach out for support. I’m here to provide that safe space—a space that can hopefully grow into a courageous space one day. Because you are loved, and you are worth so much more than you realise.

If you'd like to set up a free, 30-minute, no obligation, Healing & Growth Call with me to explore whether I am the right Reparenting Life Coach for you please book a slot at this link https://calendly.com/michelle-lim-tmp/healing-and-growth-call

With warmth and mindfulness,

Michelle Lim | Founder of The MindFull Parent | Reparenting Life Coach

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