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3 Things I Learned In My Second Marriage And What It Means.
May is special for so many reasons, but the wisdom I've gained from my marriage stands out the most. Dive into the three essential lessons that have transformed my relationship and could change yours too.
Hello MindFull Readers,
MindFull Question:
What's the Most Important Value to you in a Marriage?
May will always be one of my favourite months, not only because the school holidays are just around the corner, but also because itโs the month of my wedding anniversary.
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Here are 3 things I've learned in this marriage so far:
๐ Experiencing What It Feels Like to Be Treated Right
Being in a loving and respectful relationship has shown me the importance of mutual care and understanding. Itโs a beautiful feeling to be valued and cherished for who you are, knowing that your partner married you for that and nothing else. My better half takes the time to understand and respond to my love languages, filling my heart with so much love. In return, I love making him happy by understanding and catering to his love languages.
๐ Being in a Healthy Relationship After Trauma Is Hard Work
Healing and maintaining a healthy relationship after experiencing trauma requires a significant amount of mindful effort and dedication. It's about continuously working together to support and uplift each other during both good and challenging times. I canโt express this enough, as I've had numerous anxiety and panic attacks due to experiencing emotions and situations I never had before in any past relationships has been a shock to my emotional ecosystem. This is because my internal wiring has been so conditioned to believe that I only deserve to be treated negatively and that I wasnโt ever good enough for anybody.
๐ Love and Communication Are the Keys to Everything
Open, honest communication and a foundation of love are essential. They help us navigate challenges and strengthen the bond we've built. No matter what the topic is, I know I can always turn to my better half and speak my mind. Although it can still be challenging to keep communication open, each conversation helps us move forward together.
I hope, dear reader, that you have found these qualities in your marriage or are working towards these shared values with your partner with open communication. Sending you warm hugs and wishing you a great start to this new week.
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With warmth and mindfulness,
Michelle Lim | Founder of The MindFull Parent | Reparenting Life Coach
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